Little children are so easily overwhelmed by too much external stimuli. They hear, observe and smell their surroundings and suddenly it’s just too much for them to bear. My daughter tolerated a total of 5 minutes of first Santa visit at kindergarten and at the age of 5, after her first cinema matinée, burst to cry and then had to eat and take a nap. To eliminate excess stress and recover her forces.
With age we withstand more. But how much more?
There are various types of stresses, but we will keep aside all obviously good or bad stresses, since we usually recognise them easily.
But life suckers – they are worth a word or two.
Life suckers come to our life embodied in nasty persons usually disguised behind pretty smiles, as difficult situations or as oppressing places and in many, many other forms. The worst kind in my opinion are the human ones. They have some common traits: they come, suck as many life juices as they can and usually stick to their prey as much as they can (why leaving a fresh source of blood?), always taking and taking.
Leaving us exhausted and empty – but many times we just don’t recognise it right away. Since we are adults, right? And we won’t cry and take a nap after. We are taught to rather endure, even these silent stresses day by day, burning a lot of energy in vain. Sometimes because of fear, compassion, politeness – who knows?
What about being more aware and learning to recognise our life suckers? And not letting them taking more of our energy than we are consciously willing to give. Allowing ourselves be more child-like again and take a good care of ourselves when we need it.
Do you recognise your life suckers? How do you cope with them?
Today is one of those days. When a bad morning becomes crappy and then evolves to shitty before lunch time. I know for a long time now that the work I am doing does not reflect me anymore (ok, job sucks), but still did not make the next step in other direction (yes, I am procrastinating). Even though the spirits have been dashed for a long time now, leaving behind only restlessness to exit the situation. Where to?
Ok, now let’s be practical.
Very nice people at YouTube know exactly what I need (thanks!), so I was suggested to watch the “To find work you love, don’t follow your passion” TED talk by Benjamin Todd. To summarise: rather than start with things we are passionate about and then hope to reach a fulfilling career out of it, we should focus on what brings value, which will result in passion and fulfilling career.
This is not what we’ve been taught, right? Following the suggested 80000 hours (incredible amount of time we spend at work) website I ended doing their “decision tool”. The nice thing is that it does not give ready answers (“you should be an astronaut” thing), but merely questions to help you think about your career choices from different perspectives.
It turns out, I am concerned most with unfair distribution of wealth and I could therefore pursue career helping people discover their talents (their own source of wealth). Maybe doing crafting workshops or making reviews of innovative handmade items or maybe helping managing small craft shops would be my thing?
I guess there is quite some of you who felt stuck at some point in your lives – can you share which strategies you choose, how did you cope with it, what was helpful? Maybe share a story of your career change?
I wish you all a very bright day!
I just found a wonderful post by The richness of a simple life about the meaning of life. The keywords that resonate with me, are: gift, embracing, searching, sharing and giving it away. But it is possible to introduce really meaningful things when we let go of all distractions and clutter of everyday life – physical and even more psychological ones. To make space for our vocation.
The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. -Pablo Picasso Life is so beautiful when you embrace who you are, and build your life around that.
via The Meaning of Life — The Richness of a Simple Life